more on creating a connection culture in the law: managing the invisible and anxious lawyer

A few weeks back, I wrote about the importance of creating a connection culture in the law . One of the best ways for law firms to create connecting points for their lawyers is to gain insight into points of disconnection. As I’ve previously noted, two frequently cited causes of lawyer disconnect are the competitive nature of the business and long working hours.

According to a post from Chris Bailey at the always-interesting Bailey Workplay blog, another major cause is invisibility. Bailey attributes this problem to incompetent leadership. Specifically, he asserts that managers can do a lot of damage when they ignore employees. Ignoring actions, in turn, can take different forms, including:

  • Not acknowledging contributions
  • Not recognizing expertise
  • Not seeing the individual worth
As this post from Matt Homann suggests, anxiety can also promote lawyer disconnection. Homann points to a Harvard Business article that tells us How to Deal with Anxious People. The piece leads with an anatomical fact: When we’re anxious, our minds constrict and we’re more apt to cut off our rationality and act impulsively. Consequently, law firm leaders looking to alleviate anxiety – and the disconnection it can foster – need to talk to or with anxious lawyers rather than at or over them.


The article goes on to instruct that the best way to navigate these challenging talks is to observe the anxious person’s body language. People who feel that they’re being talked over will “leave the conversation at the earliest opportunity.” When they’re talked at, people tend to tuck their chin down or stick it out to show that they’re intimidated or ticked off, respectively. By contrast, when you talk to an anxious person, they’ll “nod from the neck up.” Similarly, someone who senses that they’re being talked with will usually relax their shoulders and neck, “as if you've told them: ‘It'll be okay. We can work this out.’”

creating a connection culture in the law

A little while back, I wrote a post on creating a more fulfilling legal career. It conveyed my thoughts on a New York Times article describing the diminishing lure of the law.

One of the resonant complaints I hear from lawyers is that they feel very disconnected from their colleagues and firms. They attribute their sense of isolation to, among other things, the competitive nature of the business and long working hours. These kinds of complaints inspired me to write posts like:

Their common theme is connection – the damage caused by its absence and ways to build it in the legal profession.


Connection is also the theme of a new ChangeThis manifesto by leadership expert Michael Lee Stallard. Titled The Connection Culture: A New Source of Competitive Advantage (pdf), the manifesto poses the compelling question: What is it about connection that makes it so powerful?

Stallard offers up this gem of an answer:

“[W]e are humans, not machines. We have emotions. We have hopes and dreams. We have a conscience. We have deeply felt human needs to be respected, to be recognized for our talents, to belong. [ ] When we work in an environment that recognizes these realities of our human nature, we thrive. [ ] When we work in an environment that fails to recognize this, it is damaging to our mental and physical health.”

He then explains and explores the core elements of a workplace Connection Culture:

  • Vision (“everyone in an organization is motivated by the organization’s mission, united by its values, and proud of its reputation”)
  • Value (“everyone in an organization understands the universal nature of people, appreciates the unique contribution of each person, and helps them achieve their potential”)
  • Voice (“everyone in an organization participates in an open, honest and safe environment where people share their opinions in order to understand one another and seek the best ideas”)
Stallard aids our understanding, and amplifies his message, by giving examples of businesses and business leaders who have successfully embraced these core components.

legal sanity at LegalTech New York

I'm no Luddite. Some have even suggested that I’ve hot glued my Blackberry to my hand. Still, I’d be stretching it more than a bit if I called myself a techie. It’s my general belief that people should connect more with one another and less with their gadgets.

Nonetheless, yesterday, I found myself happily taking in the sights and sounds of LegalTech New York. Although there was a free breakfast offer, I was actually drawn there to share the company of fellow law.com bloggers, including:

(I held back on engaging Monica in a conversation about Mets newcomer Johan Santana. She's a Yankees fanatic.)


After eating and chatting, I went to the exhibition floors and was pleasantly surprised.

I first stopped at C2Legal (e-discovery and document management tools) where I interacted with a gizmo of interlocking nails that mocked me as I tried to disentangle it. After way too much time, I caved and asked Jeffrey Stolter, the consultant manning the table, for help. He kindly obliged and I was delighted that something so simple could so engage me and a lot of other people. I asked Jeffrey about the importance of relationships in a technical world. He said, "software is software, but the relationship behind using the software effectively creates a bond of trust with your client. This bond is what sells the product." Wow. Who knew software could be so human.

From there I visited probono.net (resources for pro bono and legal services attorneys and others working to assist low income or disadvantaged clients). Their case management tool facilitates information sharing on pro bono matters. Four big firms have already signed on to use it. What a fantastic channel for technology -- helping law firms more effectively help people in need of free legal services. While I was checking out their wares, one of the reps asked if I know of any disgruntled lawyers who’d like to employ their legal knowledge in a non-legal/tech capacity. If you’re ready for a career move, here’s a link to the company’s job openings page.

Navigating the sea of information, people and booths at this event can be overwhelming and exhausting. So, you can imagine how happy I was when RVM, Inc. (e-discovery and litigation support solutions) invited me to kick up my feet in one of their massage chairs. Ten minutes later, I was refreshed and ready to learn about their products and services. Taking steps to first restore the depleted energy stores of potential buyers is a great sales tactic. It fits nicely with the XE Factor model I often write and speak about.

I met a lot of other great folks and learned quite a bit about their business offerings. I found that, even in the technology world, it’s all about people. The better you are at engaging them, meeting their needs and improving their lives, the more likely it is that you'll successfully sell your products and services and feel good about what you’re doing.

how lawyers can get into the network zone

The FC Experts Blog recently featured a three-part interview with Mike Dulworth (part two and part three), the author of a new networking book called The Connect Effect: Building Strong Personal, Professional, And Virtual Networks.

Dulworth, the head of a professional networking business, defines The Connect Effect as “the positive outcome derived from having a strong, vibrant, diverse network.” He also describes a complementary concept of entering The Network Zone. Like an elite athlete who achieves flow during a game or competition, business people enter the network zone when their “network is so broad and deep that almost anything can be accomplished more efficiently and effectively through” it.

According to Dulworth, we can cultivate this kind of peak networking performance by assessing our NQ (yup, that stands for Networking Quotient). Like our EQ (emotional intelligence) and MQ (moral intelligence), our networking intelligence isn’t fixed. We can raise it. The first step is to honestly appraise the “scope and strength” of our network and our networking activities. Beyond this candid assessment, Dulworth says, the key “is to find a way to build and maintain your network that is comfortable for you.”

I’ve addressed the importance of charting our own networking paths in posts like this one on re-connecting with your business network and this one discussing how to grow an organic business network . My friend Curt Rosengren adds to this point – and does us a major favor -- by publishing this extensive compilation of articles on networking for shy people.

For more insight into the art and science of building strong business connections, you can take a look at lawyer/marketing consultant Cole Silver’s new Expert Audio Series. I’m one of the contributors, along with a host of other legal bloggers, including:

Stephanie West Allen
Larry Bodine
Carolyn Elefant
Jim Hassett
Daniel Hull
Dennis Kennedy
Patrick Lamb
Susan Cartier Liebel
Ed Poll
Gerry Riskin

the ongoing inquiry into lawyer happiness

It’s probably no mere coincidence that at a time of political challenge and economic uncertainty in the United States, there’s been a flurry of coverage on the subject of … happiness.

For some time now, I’ve been intrigued by the science and study of happiness, as evidenced in this post on the road to lawyer happiness and this one that puts lawyer happiness under the microscope.

So, I eagerly read a pair of recent Christian Science Monitor articles on the subject.

The first piece - titled Actually, Happiness Isn’t Within - challenges the “firmly held and particularly American belief that happiness” is an internal quality; a state of being, or wellbeing, that we cultivate from the inside out. Citing new findings by social scientists, the article asserts that our happiness is a byproduct of external factors. Topping the list of those outside influences “is the quantity and the quality of our relationships.” (Journalist Penelope Trunk echoes this point in a post that offers a few tests for discerning what we need to be happier.)

Given this new happiness formula and the amount of time most of us spend on-the-job, it stands to reason that our happiness must be strongly linked to the quality of our work environment and business relationships. If we’re routinely unhappy doing what we do for a living, it’s a sure sign that these external components are unhealthy and stacked against us.

This is the underlying message of Alexander Kjerulf’s CSM commentary on cultivating happiness at work.

According to Kjerulf, it’s the norm for U.S. workers to be dissatisfied with their jobs. That’s because managers and employees alike fail to make workplace happiness a priority. This isn’t a gosh, well, I guess that’s too bad fact of life. As Kjerulf puts it: “Hating your job is not an inconvenience, it's a serious problem. It can cause stress and depression. Ultimately, it can kill you.”

Lawyers should be acutely aware of the seriousness of this issue. As Sue Shellenbarger (pdf) writes in an article on Lawyers Opening Up About Depression, studies have found that about “19% of lawyers suffer depression at any given time, compared with 6.7% of the population as a whole.” While some might question the exact correlation between career stresses and depression, it seems that it’s well accepted that the “practice of law, with constant conflict and billing pressures, can take a toll.”

Attorney Daniel Lukasik contacted me last week to let me know about a website he’s launched to support himself and other lawyers who are living and coping with the day-to-day realities of depression. I checked it out and it presents as a terrific and much-needed resource.

For another perspective on lawyers and depression, Stephanie West Allen points us to a new book exploring the “benefits of negative emotions” and “how we might view depression in a more constructive way.”

helpful links to bring some sanity into the new year

My friend and business associate Keith Ferrazzi emailed me about his goals for 2008. He shared his belief that, “to be a successful goal-getter,” we need to take a few preliminary steps.

First, we have to define our goals. Keith believes that goals usually fall into one of seven categories (he calls them the “seven aspects” of our “personal success wheel”):

  • health + wellness
  • spirituality
  • job + career
  • intellectual + cultural
  • financial
  • deep relationships
  • giving back
Step two is to make sure that the goals we define are SMART, which stands for:
  • specific
  • measurable
  • attainable
  • relevant
  • time-bound
The third step in Keith’s goal-getting approach is a crucial one. We need to get some positive reinforcement by asking three friends to be our “accountability buddies.” The idea is to create a vibrant support network so that no one has to go it alone and everyone stays accountable.


To help us take these steps, Keith and his team have created an application called Goal Post that’s housed at Facebook, the social networking site. According to Keith, Goal Post is “an easy and visual way to set your goals, choose your accountability buddies and keep track of your progress.”

If 2007 found you questioning your job or career path, you can find some guidance and inspiration for the coming year in Curt Rosengren’s new book, 101 Ways to Get Wild About Work.

I was fortunate enough to receive and review an advance copy of the book. Curt offers a lot of practical insight and action points for reenergizing our current work or reorienting towards a different job or career that rewards us on many levels – financial, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. There’s a hefty helping of material here. But, Curt makes it very easy to consume by breaking it down into bite-sized tips, ideas and inspirational perspectives.

I wish you all a happy, healthy and meaningful 2008.

join me this week for a webcast on attorney retention

Some of the topics I regularly cover here are:

When I’m on the road delivering my learning programs, law firm partners and managers often share how these related issues are not easy to parse through and address in the real world of law. Their frustration is palpable and understandable.


On Wednesday, December 19, 2007, Joshua Fruchter and I will give a live, 90-minute webcast entitled: Attorney Retention: Preventing an Exodus of Talent. Presented by West Legalworks, the program is CLE-accredited in a number of states.

Among other practical tips and strategies for redressing the related problems of attorney attrition and retention, participants will learn how to:

  • Recognize telltale signs of lawyer unhappiness
  • Energize attorney productivity
  • Foster meaningful communication between lawyers and management
If you’d like to register for the webcast or learn more about the presenters, content or CLE credits, please visit this details page. When you use this link to register, you’ll receive a 15% discount on the price of the program.

re-connecting with your business network

Like many lawyers – solos and others – I often emerge from the whirlwind that’s work and life to find that I’ve fallen out of touch with people in my business network. Especially at this time of year, when closing out the old and ringing in the new, I’m pulled to fix these broken connections.

I know that many professionals send out holiday cards and gifts as means to this end. While these offerings certainly can connect us with clients and business associates we’ve lost touch with, they’re largely one-way lines of communication.

A better route to re-connection runs two ways. It’s an organic dialogue that lends a human dimension to our business relationships.

Curt Rosengren illustrated this point when he invited me to be part of his Reconnection Revolution. Noting that “there's something about that real time ear-to-ear interaction that just takes the connection to the next level,” Curt pledged to have “30 conversations in 30 days with people I've never actually spoken with (as in voice) before. No particular agenda to the conversations – just seeing what I learn, how I’m inspired, and what new ideas pop up.”

I “know” Curt from the blogosphere and regularly link to his work from legal sanity. Still, ours was an arms-length association at best. We reduced a good bit of that distance during our hour-long phone conversation. We discussed our personal and professional backgrounds, goals and challenges and offered one another advice and support.

Reflecting on his 30-day mission, Curt said: “People start talking, building relationships, exchanging ideas, even finding ways to collaborate. Next thing you know – hey presto! – the positive potential has just grown exponentially.”

Lawyers and other service providers can use Curt’s model to repair the broken connections in our business network. As he points out, we don’t have to follow his 30-in-30 formula. We can customize it to make it workable for us: think 5-in-5 or even 5-in-10 and see what happens over time.

giving thanks

I want to wish all of you celebrants a very Happy Thanksgiving.

My co-publisher, Lori Herz, and I are grateful for this opportunity to “visit with you” and share our ideas and perspectives on cultivating legal sanity. We’re equally grateful that you share your ideas and perspectives with us.

Every day affords us another chance to contemplate all the blessings in our lives and all the people and things that we’re thankful for. But, it’s nice to have an official 24 hour block of time devoted to this pursuit.

Enjoy!

on the road to a healthier legal profession

Last week, I was a panelist and presenter at a two-day conference on Law as a Healing Profession. The presentations and discussions centered on some interesting themes, including:

  • The Lawyer as Therapeutic Agent 
  • Resolving Civil Disputes
  • Cultivating Cross-Cultural Competence
  • Wellness and Well-being
My panel addressed the subject of law and spirituality. Of course, to many practitioners and observers, this seems to be as potent a combination as oil and water. But, as I’ve explored here at legal sanity and in my training and development programs, there is a potential connection between the two.

To realize that potential, it’s important to understand that spirituality isn’t necessarily synonymous with God or religion. Rather, spirituality can refer to how we infuse what we do for a living with a greater (or higher) sense of meaning and purpose.

When I was at the conference, I met David A. Hoffman. David is the founder of the Boston Law Collaborative, a firm devoted to conflict resolution and collaborative law practice. David pointed me to a commentary on collaborative law he recently wrote for the Christian Science Monitor. The piece offers a well-rounded, insider take on the history, risks and benefits of this “healing approach” to the law.

To me, David’s perspective on the law’s ability to heal, rather than divide, people goes to the heart of the law-spirituality connection. It’s this healing effect that many discontented lawyers are looking to reclaim in their practice. In turn, the more practitioners find their way to reclaiming this kind of meaning and purpose in the law, the healthier the profession will become.

how to build a better legal profession

Back in May, I wrote about Law Students Building a Better Legal Profession, a group composed of top-tier law students who have joined forces to propel profession-wide reform. Law.com, by way of Legal Times, recently profiled the group’s mission and goals in an article titled Students Seek a More Reasonable Law Firm Life.

The other day, I received an e-mail from the group announcing its release of “a series of reports ranking large law firms in New York and other major legal markets on gender composition, diversity, billable hours, and pro bono participation.” The reports aim to help law students make more informed – or, perhaps, more reasonable -- choices in deciding where to work. You’ll find links to the reported firm rankings, by geographic location, on the sidebar of the group’s blog.

Fostering a healthier legal profession is also the focus of a November 4-5, 2007 conference on Law as a Healing Profession. The two-day event takes place at the Touro Law Center in Islip, New York. I’m participating as a presenter and panelist. Panel topics include:

  • The Lawyer as Therapeutic Agent Practice
  • Resolving Civil Disputes
  • Practice, Spirituality & Religion
  • Cultivating Cross-Cultural Competence
  • Wellness and Well-being
You can register for the conference and download the event brochure here.

lawyer experience management revisited

"We want employees to have an experience that revitalizes them and changes their thinking – that brings them back with brand-new ideas and perspectives. If they're not growing as people, we're not growing as a company."

When you read and re-read this quote, what does it trigger for you? What kind of business leader do you attribute it to? Most likely, you can envision the statement coming from the top tier of a progressive, worker-centric company like Apple or Yahoo.

But, these words were spoken by lawyer Lee S. Rosen, CEO of the Rosen Law Firm. Rosen is one of the employers featured in a recent Christian Science Monitor article on the benefits of employee sabbaticals.

Borrowing a custom from academia, some corporate employers are offering these paid and unpaid time outs as part of their employee recruitment and retention efforts.

Rosen encourages his employees to use the time to “do something that’s meaningful to them” (the link is mine). Lisa Angel, a Rosen lawyer who’s profiled in the piece, says that she “needed a change from the rigors and emotions” of her work in divorce law. She spent her 3-month sabbatical traveling solo in China and Southeast Asia. The time away, she asserts, changed her “perspective about the balance of work and life and “enabled her to continue practicing law.”

Offering sabbaticals is one way that law firms can foster a culture of meaning and nurturing. Complementary avenues of cultural change in the legal profession will be explored at Touro Law Center’s upcoming conference on Law as a Healing Profession.

The conference takes place on November 4-5, 2007 at Touro’s campus in Central Islip, New York. I will be there as a keynote speaker and panelist. To see the roster of other presenters and for more information, you can view the event brochure here (pdf).

Welcome to BlawgWorld 2007

I’ve previously expressed why blogging is a boon to me. As one of its biggest benefits, blogging allows me to partake in a thriving community of thinkers and innovators in the law. I've met a number of great people in this online community. While some remain virtual acquaintances, others have crossed the cyber border for connection in real time.

Not long ago, a number of legal bloggers gathered in New York City at the invitation of Neil Squillante and Sara Skiff of TechnoLawyer. We came together to celebrate the pre-launch of BlawgWorld 2007 (pdf), an eBook compilation of thoughts and commentary from 77 leading legal bloggers.

Today marks the official launch of BlawgWorld 2007. This free 345-page eBook is a solid introduction to the world of law blogs and an informative read for anyone interested in what’s going on in today’s legal profession and marketplace. The essay selections are timely, relevant and very easy to navigate thanks to a user-friendly proprietary design.

I’m proud to be a contributing author (page 95).

You can access the 77 essays and companion information by downloading your free copy of BlawgWorld 2007. The folks at TechnoLawyer encourage you to share the eBook with your associates and friends. If you’d like to distribute it, visit TechnoLawyer’s eBook Press Kit page for instructions.

yoga for lawyers

I’ve written two articles on meditation for lawyers: First Steps to an Uncluttered Mind and Meditation: Tool for a Clear Mind and Competitive Edge. Over the years, I’ve coupled my own meditation practice with the physical practice of yoga. The interest in yoga runs in the family. My kids enjoy it and my wife -- legal sanity’s co-producer Lori Herz  -- is a certified yoga instructor and devoted practitioner.

I just spotted this Small Firm Business feature titled: Personal Injury Solo Finds Salvation Through Yoga. In it, California solo Mark Webb shares how yoga helped him rise from a low point in his personal and professional life.

Now, 30 pounds lighter and possessing “a cooler mind-set in trial,” Webb wants to educate other lawyers about yoga’s benefits. So, he’s launched a website, yogalawyers.com, and is arranging an introductory yoga workshop in San Francisco on July 15-16, 2007. The site links to an engaging Yoga Journal article about Webb’s transformation through yoga.

how lawyers can choose a business coach

In my last post about business coaching for lawyers, I suggested that an important part of the coaching process is moving from assessment and strategy to action. As in sports, coaching success is determined on the playing field. A coach’s ideas, inspiration and guidance mean little to us if we still lack the ability-skills-tools we need to translate them into action points, realized goals and personal or team victories. That’s why our choice of business coach is so critical. First and foremost, we need to ensure that the coach we decide to work with can help us set realistic goals and take action to achieve them in our practice arena.

Stymied by the prospect of choosing the right business coach for you? You’ll find some great tips on getting started in the selection process in this Fast Company leadership post called Executive Coaching – Fuel or Folly? Among the pointers offered are: (1) have a general idea of what you’re striving for; (2) ask about the candidate’s coaching style, process, philosophy and experience; and (3) know what kind of coaching you want (relationship skills v. business growth v. psychological insights).

For a broader perspective on the benefits of coaching, take a look at Edward Poll’s (congratulations on your new grandson, Ed!) terrific article called Coaches Teach What Law Schools Don’t. It details how coaches with real world lawyering experience can help young practitioners bridge the skill and knowledge gap between the study and practice of law. Poll also addresses how lawyers learn to define and refine their idea of success through the coaching relationship.

Rounding out this mix of resources is Rosa Say’s post on how blogging has boosted the coaching industry. As part of her coverage, Say features my recent blog entry on coaching for lawyers (thanks!) and provides links to a roster of blogger-coaches in her vibrant Ho'ohana Community.

finding the right coaching approach

I’m a big fan of business coaching for lawyers. I’ve been a consumer and provider of coaching services for many years. There are different coaching approaches and styles and, as with other personal and professional pursuits, it’s important to take the time to find the right coaching fit for you.

In a recent ABA Journal article titled Coach Me, Jenny B. Davis profiles the work of three professional coaches and their lawyer clients. I’m one of the featured coaches. The interesting thing about this inaugural run of the ABA Journal Coaching Project was it’s time frame. The coaches had just one month to help our clients “achieve peak performance.”

I worked with Larry Koch, a partner at a midsize Minneapolis firm looking to build his book of business. As I thought about the most efficient use of our relatively short time together, I decided to focus in on Larry’s existing business relationships to see if they offered any new avenues of opportunity for him to explore. Once we had this focus and a corresponding strategy, it was exciting to witness how much Larry accomplished in four weeks.

Sometimes, when we have an open time frame in which to meet our professional goals, we end up our spinning wheels, rethinking our steps and getting mired in details rather than taking action. The curtailed nature of this coaching assignment actually proved to be a very positive motivator. It kept us moving and on track.

blawg review #108

I’m happy to be hosting this week’s blawg review, a carnival (or roundup) of recent law blog commentary. Thank you to all the bloggers, readers and others who sent in posts for my consideration. I read them all and learned a lot from them. Below, you’ll find the submissions that worked best with my chosen theme of creating successful business relationships in the law. I hope you enjoy reading the selections as much as I enjoyed putting them together. So, here we go:

Tom Collins posts on a study finding that Law Firm Clients Prefer Smiles. Apparently, smiles are contagious. As Collins points out, “What you project through your mannerisms is often what you get back from the person you’re dealing with.” Simply put, people want to deal with people who improve their day.

Reflecting on the publicized, unsavory conduct of a particular lawyer, Sheryl Sisk Schelin notes that incivility in the practice of law (and elsewhere) “always – always – has an impact on those who observe it.”

In a post evidencing the relationships fueled in the blogosphere, Tom Kane points us to The 12 Rules of Client Service authored by fellow blogger Dan Hull. The rules are excerpted from a practice guide Hull’s firm gives to its associates and paralegals. Among the relationship-oriented rules Hull imparts is “Rule Four: Deliver Legal Work That Changes the Way Clients Think About Lawyers.”

David Maister shares his take on research showing that Happiness is Relative. He observes that, for most people, happiness lies in “whether or not you have more or less than others.” It all comes down to who you’re comparing yourself to. Maister ends by questioning how we pick the groups we use as reference points in determining our happiness quotient.

In a post on client relationships titled Don’t Treat All Your Clients The Same, Michelle Golden writes that it’s okay to calibrate our service offerings to the type of client we’re engaging (very best v. good v. base line). Drawing an analogy to the airline industry, she suggests that with each step up in the client hierarchy, we can step up our level of service.

Looking at the foundation for our business connections, Anthony Cerminaro writes that our business relationships thrive when we Live Authentically by being true to who we are – to our values, passions and needs – in our work. In another post called Seven Habits of Servant Leaders, he shares his views on how leaders can create strong workplace relationships.

Also exploring leadership in the law, David Jacobson opines that law firms and their business relationships benefit from having a consigliere in the firm's top management team.

Carolyn Elefant refers us to a handy checklist that associates can use to vet the employee-law firm relationship and assess whether they’re Living in a Dead-End Job.

Offering us additional insight into the law firm-associate relationship, Nathan Koppel posts about one firm’s decision to host etiquette events (focused on table manners) for its fleet of summer associates.

Taking us from the dining table to the larger networking circuit, Bruce Allen presents his latest installment in a series of posts on Developing Face-to-Face Networking Skills. He says that it “makes a lot of sense that most of us are not getting any relationship mileage from the people we’re meeting” at networking events. Allen goes on to tell us how we can up our mileage in a few easy steps.

Taking a look at the tech side of facilitating successful business relationships, Tom Mighell introduces a discussion of Wikis for Lawyers and refers us to a radio show he recently did on the topic.

That’s the roundup for this week.

A new blawg review is published at a different law blog every Monday. You can visit Blawg Review for information about next week’s host, Enrico Schaefer, and for instructions on how to get your blawg posts reviewed in upcoming issues.

legal sanity to host blawg review on 5.14.07

I’m happy to announce that, on Monday, May 14, 2007, I’m hosting Blawg Review #108, a carnival (or roundup) of recent blog commentary on the theme of creating successful business relationships in the law. If you’d like to submit a relevant post from your own or someone else’s blog, feel free to do so by Saturday, May 12th. You’ll find submission guidelines here.

As I’ve previously mentioned, the topic of creating successful business relationships and avoiding unsuccessful ones has become a focal point of my coverage here at legal sanity as well as a mainstay of my learning programs business. The law firm-lawyer connection is one of the key relationships I consider on both fronts. In past posts, I’ve looked at it from the perspective of:

Offering another point to consider is this Brazen Careerist post on the evolution of employee loyalty. In it, Penelope Trunk notes that the incoming generation of workers has a different notion of loyalty than its predecessors. In this age of job-hopping, loyalty doesn’t mean sticking with one company for your entire work life. It means being “loyal while you are there.”

So, what creates this new brand of loyalty?

For employees, loyalty derives in large part from finding “a place that contributes to your core needs, in a way that gives you the opportunity to express passions in significant ways.” Employers, in turn, attract loyalists by rallying employees around a common mission or by making it easy for them to pursue their individual missions in and outside the workplace. Trunk gives us some good examples of loyalty-generating business initiatives.

Echoing her take on the subject is this post from Cali’s Work + Life “Fit” Blog discussing how companies can better support employees caring for children with special needs. Citing the unique challenges facing these working parents (on a national scale, 1 in 12 employees has a child with special needs), the post lists flexible work options, more comprehensive healthcare, on-site support groups and educational programs among other constructive employer efforts. It’s not hard to envision the kind of loyalty that naturally results when an organization recognizes and positively addresses the needs of a sizeable employee population like this one.

legal sanity blog hopper roundup

While I was away on a business-family trip last week, I took a little time to vet the online hopper where I store fodder for my blog posts. Although it’s all worthy of more in-depth attention, I decided to present the hopper’s article, post and other content to you here in condensed form so that you can consume it sooner rather than later. Enjoy!

Addressing one of my favorite topics, happiness, are the following:

What is “happiness,” anyway? and What is happiness? are two great posts from Gretchen Rubin at The Happiness Project;

Debbie Call’s commentary Make Money - Get Happy - Not? and link to an underlying Mother Jones article on human well-being called Reversal of Fortune;

Tom Peter’s take on Passion or Indifference;

Pamela Slim’s provocative newsletter feature entitled Is your inner tiger choking on a short leash?  and her related blog post;

Last, but certainly not least, my friend Michael Cohen posts on the science backing the positive effects of meditation.

The next set drawn from the hopper considers workplace matters. They are:

Forbes’ coverage of work-life balance;

Views on employee engagement provided by Curt Rosengren and Motto Magazine in What is employee engagement (and why does it matter)?;

A two-part posting at Be Excellent on Employee Engagement and Generational Differences and employee engagement statistics and tips;

Fast Company’s insights into Caring, the Corporate Way.

This last group offers valuable guidance to newly-minted lawyers:

Blogger and Edge International consultant Patrick J. McKenna writes about ways to ask for business;

Dan Hull shares his philosophy on the same subject in a post titled Asking Clients for Work: “Why are Lawyers So Shy?”;

Rounding out the offerings is an article highlighting how law schools are not preparing graduates for solo practice. The piece quotes blogger and solo-advocate Susan Cartier Liebel.

On that note, this coming Monday, April 16, 2007, at noon, I'm speaking to Harvard Law School’s graduating class about fearless networking. This program is part of the school’s pilot effort to better prepare students for the real-world practice of law. If you’re in the Boston area and would like to attend, please let me know.

innovation in the practice of law

Since 1994, the College of Law Practice Management has promoted and honored “innovation in law practices around the world.” As part of its efforts, the College sponsors the InnovAction Awards, “a worldwide search for lawyers, law firms, law departments and other providers of legal services who are currently engaged in some extraordinary innovative efforts.”

Entries for the 2007 Awards are now being accepted. The winners will be presented on September 8, 2007 at the College’s annual meeting in Philadelphia, PA.

To learn about the application and selection process, visit the College of Law Practice Management online. If you’d like more insight into the College’s important mission and work, you can check out its new blog and the latest issue of its InnovAction eZine (pdf).

new perspectives on work-life issues in the law

I’m thrilled to announce that our new eGuide, Beyond Balance: How to Cultivate Work-Life Synergy in the Law (PDF) is finished and now available as a complimentary offering from Legal Sanity Learning Programs. Here’s an excerpt:

What Are We Really Looking For in the Name Of Work-Life Balance?

If you ask lawyers (whether male or female, seasoned or newly-minted) to describe their work-life issues, you’ll get many different responses, including:

· I love my work, but I don’t have time for personal pursuits

· I don’t like my work and have no time for personal pursuits

· My work life is dull and boring compared to my personal life

· My work and personal lives are both unfulfilling

· The people I deal with at work are draining

· My work tasks are unchallenging and depleting

At first glance, these complaints seem quite distinct.

But, on closer inspection, we can see that they’re all expressions of discontent with how practitioners are engaging and handling the lawyer experience and its three component parts:

1. Time

2. Relationships

3. Tasks

We feel distressed when any of these three components is deficient and depleting us. And if more than one of the triad is impaired (as is usually the case), our distress and discontent only increases.

Lawyers feeling the fallout from this impairment often wonder: “What is the purpose of this? I want to experience more meaning in life. How do I find my way to happiness?”

While some people dismiss work-life issues in the law as bunk, articles like this one about workaholics and this one about the best companies to work for evince that this is not a red herring matter for a profession populated by stressed, unhappy and defecting practitioners.

Work-life synergy is a subject that’s been near and dear to me as I’ve traveled my own career path and developed content for this blog.

I’d love for you to read the eGuide and share it with your co-workers and friends in the service professions. Also, please feel free to give me your feedback on the Guide and its core message about moving beyond balance.

the gift of guidance for lawyers

In this time of giving and receiving, I want to thank everyone who reads and engages this blog for receiving what I have to offer in the form of ideas and commentary on bettering the practice of law. I’d also like to thank you for giving me the gift of your great insight and input on legal sanity. I wish you all joyous and fulfilling holiday celebrations.

Here are a few resources offering the gift of guidance for lawyers. The first is a roundup of Inc.com’s  best articles on mentoring, an important inroad to employee engagement in law firms.

The next guidepost comes through a Fast Company article called Finding Their Calling. It highlights the point that employee engagement and fidelity derives in large part from a particular kind of fitness -- the degree to which an employee’s values match (or fit with) those of the organization and/or team that he or she is a part of. The greater the level of fitness, the more likely it is that employees will deem their work “meaningful, purposeful, and important.”

The final source of guidance is the October/November 2006 issue of GP/Solo Magazine. In it, you’ll find an array of articles addressing lawyer distress and pathways to wellbeing. Among the subjects covered are: ADHD; addiction; mental illness; lawyer assistance programs; and meditation. It’s always comforting to learn that we aren’t alone in facing personal and professional challenges and that there are people and programs here to help us.

on blogging, leadership and community spirit

Blogging is a boon to me in so many ways. It gives me a wonderful avenue for engaging and sharing my own and others’ thoughts on optimizing the practice of law. It allows me to express and experience how my life as a lawyer intersects with the values I hold most dear. And it exposes me to a host of powerful and inspiring ideas for cultivating a meaningful career.

Another great boon is the network of people I've met through the blog. While some of these people remain virtual friends, others have crossed the cyber border for real-time interaction.

Last week, I had the pleasure of presenting a program at fellow blogger Mark Beese’s Colorado law firm, Holland & Hart. Mark set the tone for a terrific, interactive session with a warm and welcoming introduction that included a nice ping for my blog. On this same trip, I met with Stephanie West Allen, who writes about many interesting aspects of lawyering at her blog, idealawg. Stephanie recently interviewed me for her regular Legal Highlights feature.

The blog-fostered connection continued with an invitation from fellow blogger, coach and author Rosa Say to contribute to her Ho’ike’ike 2006 (blog forum) on leadership. This was a gem of an opportunity to join in a community of like-minded thinkers by sharing my views on leadership in the law. You can check out all the thought-provoking leadership forum contributions at Rosa’s excellent blog, Talking Story.

I really enjoyed the sense of kinship that came from answering Rosa’s call to action. But it was her generosity of spirit – her spirit of aloha - that really touched me. Soon after submitting my post for the forum roundup, I received two fabulous gifts from Rosa – twin copies of her highly regarded book on business management, Managing with Aloha. It was clear that these were gifts from the heart. Rosa inscribed one copy with a personal note to me and my wife, Lori. The other copy is, in Rosa’s words, “to share.”

Sharing, community and connection – all attributes that Rosa Say personifies – form the triad of influences that keep me blogging along.

another round for the rainmaking roundup

The rainmaking roundup has become a fairly regular feature here.

The latest round of commentary on this popular topic includes this CareerJournal.com piece on Networking Strategies for Shy Professionals. While it focuses on the hunt for a new job, the article’s tips apply equally well to the type of networking-for-client-generation lawyers typically engage in under the rainmaking umbrella.

The tips compel us to think of networking as “using shared interests to develop and maintain mutually beneficial relationships.” Considered in this light, networking is “as natural as eating and sleeping. Whenever you talk with others and seek their opinions to make an informed decision -- even if it's just to find a good restaurant, movie or electrician -- you're networking.”

The piece goes on to suggest that reluctant rainmakers “connect” with their passion – a “product, service or cause” that excites them. Focusing on these passion-driven interests allows us to “talk with conviction and insight, which can reduce [ ] networking jitters.”

For more insight into buoying the reluctant rainmaker-networker, you can check out the article I wrote for the Legal Marketing Association on Fearless Networking (pdf).

For another interesting perspective on rainmaking, you should read Bruce Allen’s commentary on How to Become an “A” Player Attorney. Among the pearls he shares are:

· “Be principled, honest, giving, open-hearted, and dedicated to helping other people achieve their dreams.”

· “Believe in yourself enough to be able to say, ‘No.’”

· “Treat people as if they are far more important and interesting [ ] than yourself.”

I’ve also found a lot of valuable information on rainmaking in blogger Jim Hassett’s new book, Legal Business Development. One of the points that really resonates for me is Jim’s emphasis on taking action instead of just planning and thinking. As I say: Ready, fire, aim.


the curmudgeonly law firm mentor

Here’s a quick note from the road (or the train, as it were) as I make my way to a give a program on advanced mediation skills at the Association for Conflict Resolution’s Sixth Annual Conference.

I just finished Jones Day partner Mark Herrmann’s very funny and quite practical guidebook for budding and seasoned lawyers alike: The Curmudgeon’s Guide to Practicing Law. I really enjoyed it and suggest that you grab a copy for yourself and the other lawyers in your life.

Monica Bay (who goes from e-mail to post at a rate of speed that would make any New York Yankees pitcher reel with jealousy) nicely captures my thoughts on Herrmann’s book in a mailbag roundup at her terrific blog, The Common Scold.

Check it out.

join me tomorrow night for my podcast on XE Factor: Relationships for Business Success

I'm very pleased to announce that tomorrow, October 10, 2006, at 9:00 p.m. EST, I'm hosting a live interactive podcast on BlogTalkRadio.com. I'll be engaging a dialogue on a topic that's become a mainstay of my Training + Development programs for lawyers and other service professionals - XE Factor: Relationships for Business Success.

As I've discussed here before, the XE [Energy Exchange] Factor is a teaching model of human energy exchange I devised to help people better understand how a particular person, issue, interaction or job impacts them on an energetic level. I believe that much of the work-related conflict, stress and discontent we experience stems from our inability to gauge, protect and renew our personal energy stores.

You can read more of my archived posts on the XE Factor here; here; and here.

I look forward to sharing some ideas and conversation with you on this important topic during my pocast tomorrow night.

the next wave of legal sanity

I'm very pleased to announce that my wife and blog production partner, Lori Herz, is launching a freelance business writing venture – LH Wordsmith.

Her goal is to evolve the legal sanity brand and mission she co-created by helping lawyers and other professional service providers produce clear, concise and powerful written work.

Lori has played a major role in legal sanity’s day-to-day operations since its inception in 2004. She’s overseen the blog’s physical and content design and taken the lead on researching and drafting its posts. Her role at legal sanity complements, and draws support from, the extensive business experience she gained through a federal clerkship, criminal and civil appellate practice and work in nonprofit governance.

The writing at legal sanity reflects Lori’s ability to clearly and succinctly organize, synthesize and communicate ideas and information from diverse sources. Largely as a result of this ability and her passion for her work, legal sanity has developed a wide audience and online visibility that’s grown with its recent inclusion in the law.com network’s Legal Blog Watch

With her work at legal sanity, Lori has cultivated in-depth knowledge of today’s professional service marketplace. She closely follows important trends in the law and other service industries and understands the enormous business value of adept educational-promotional writing.

Marrying her business experience, knowledge and wordsmith skills, Lori has written articles for legal trade publications. She’s also created content and collateral materials for legal industry training and development programs. Topics covered by Lori include: business development; career contentment; client relations; communication skills; employee engagement; leadership; marketing trends; and work-life synergy. 

Lori imports this depth of marketplace knowledge and writing experience into her offerings at LH Wordsmith. In her new role, she’ll help busy service providers stand out in the competitive marketplace by producing high-quality written work that showcases their expertise; engages and educates their business prospects, clients and employees; builds their reputation and visibility; and fosters success, satisfaction and sanity in their work life and beyond.

If you would like to learn more about Lori’s business writing services, you can contact her at lori@loriherz.com or (516) 655-6955. Her business Web site will launch soon. In the interim, you can sample her written work at legal sanity’s main page and via its sidebar menus.

tools for restoring our energy

To commemorate the events of Sept. 11th, this morning at 8:45am, I shut my office door, closed my eyes and placed my hands on my heart for a few minutes. The resulting positive shift in my energy state, thoughts and emotions was palpable and profound.

This simple act, which I've repeated a few times, has enabled me to stay focused and connected to others throughout the day. It’s also given me some much-needed insight into how I can gain perspective and rebuild my energy stores when they’re depleted by the stresses and uncertainties of work and life.

Because it’s so simple and portable, I’m adding this exercise to the set of tools I use to help myself and others better understand how the XE Factor – the dynamic of human energy depletion, generation and management – plays out in our professional and personal lives.

Please feel free to give the exercise a try and share your experiences with me.

innovation and collaboration in the law

Bruce MacEwen of Adam Smith, Esq. recently announced the publication of InnoVaction (pdf), the College of Law Practice Management’s new e-zine covering innovation in the practice of law. Among the noted and notable contributors are MacEwen himself and Gerry Riskin of Amazing Firms Amazing Practices.

I’m about midway through the magazine and it’s terrific. It approaches the subject of innovation from a variety of perspectives and, in doing so, demonstrates the power of collaborative thought and action.

As Riskin points out in a recent post, the collaboration on this important topic continues in a new blog, Blank Sheet of Paper And a box of crayons. The blog is the work of Merrilyn Astin Tarlton, the editor-in-chief of the ABA’s Law Practice magazine.

Collaboration is something that fortifies any effort to compel positive change in the legal profession. A few weeks ago, I was fortunate enough to experience this kind of collaborative power when Riskin and MacEwen volunteered their time and energy to help me test run my new training and development program on the XE Factor.

The input and diverse ideas they offered during our day together have proven invaluable and the program - as it’s since evolved – reflects the boons of our very constructive collaboration.

boosting lawyer productivity by improving focus

Management consultant Lisa Haneberg has a new book out called Focus Like a Laser Beam: 10 Ways to Do What Matters Most. I’m looking forward to imbibing the insights Haneberg offers up here. I’ve been a regular reader of her blog, Management Craft, for quite some time. She’s got an easy and engaging writing style and I find her thoughts on leadership and business effectiveness highly relevant to my professional focus on helping people energize and optimize their life in the law.

According to the book’s promotional material, in this latest endeavor, Haneberg extols the virtues of focus as a vital business and leadership skill. Launching from the premise that the “ability to focus helps separate the good from the great in all professions and disciplines;” Haneberg looks to the qualities and mechanics of laser beams for instruction and inspiration on developing the focus we need to survive and thrive in today’s fast-paced and rapidly changing business environment.

For more on Haneberg’s book, you can check out an interview and review linked to in a recent 800-CEO-Read blog post. Hanberg has also launched an excellent podcast series called Fireside Chats about Management and Leadership. These “informal conversations with respected business thinkers and bloggers” converge around the “theme of helping people focus and succeed.”

lawyer experience management

There’s a good deal of discussion and debate out there about the new era of customer relationship management in which the emphasis is increasingly placed on understanding and optimizing the customer experience.

While reading up on this subject for my training and development business, it occurred to me that law firms and the legal profession would greatly benefit from pursuing something I call lawyer experience management (LEM). LEM initiatives would afford invaluable insight into how and why lawyers are -and aren’t - energized, fulfilled and inspired by their work. Toward this end, they would assess how lawyers typically feel when interacting with their firms and fellow professionals. They’d also gauge how lawyers commonly react to the true culture of their firms and profession over time.

Of course, this kind of self-scrutiny would require a huge amount of openness and honesty on the parts of practitioners, firms and professional associations. But, there is precedent for this kind of candor. In order to ensure sustainability and curb attrition, organizations are taking steps to identify and reform arrogant and abusive executives. They’re also using executive coaching to cultivate effective leaders.

In any kind of self-inquiry - including the corporate version that LEM would require – adding a healthy dose of humor to the candor often helps the process along. In this spirit, I highly recommend that you get a copy of blogger-author Jeremy Blachman’s very funny new book, Anonymous Lawyer, which offers a hiring partner’s (maybe-not-so) satirical look at life at a prestigious firm. You’ll get a flavor for the book from the related Anonymous Law Firm site.

While, ultimately, each of us is responsible for optimizing our own life in the law; concerted efforts to understand and buoy the lawyer experience within firms and in the field can only work to our collective benefit.